I’ve been told before you shouldn’t talk about politics or religion on a date because it might make things awkward, so I try to touch on both, partly because those are genuinely interesting subjects and partly because “bad first date” seems a thousand times better than “finding out six months later that you’ve fucked a staunchly conservative fundamentalist”.
Like yeah disagreements are uncomfortable but you know what’s worse? Waking up next to a dipshit
I know SEVERAL afab nonbinary people who, as soon as they came out as nonbinary - immediately began dressing in ridiculous hyper-femme outfits they never would have worn before. A lot of people see this and say shit like “Theyfab” or say they are only nonbinary for attention. After all, look how femme they are.
But to me, this makes perfect sense. When you are forced into the category of “woman” against your will, femininity is a chore. It’s a job that you have. As soon as you say no, I’m not a woman, suddenly femininity isn’t your job anymore. It’s not a requirement. It’s just a fun hobby you can get into. Or a little treat sometimes.
“being distressed about an evil thought is what shows you’re a good person” = bad, unhelpful, is not at all conducive to OCD recovery
“there’s no such thing as a good or bad thought”, “your thoughts do not define your morality”, etc = good, helpful, acknowledges the fact that thoughtcrime isn’t real
remember kids, implying that distress is what makes you a good person is NOT a good way to encourage people to build a life where they are able to learn to live alongside intrusive thoughts
i told my friend’s dad that he was hot (it was in context with the conversation, he was complaining that he was feeling old, etc), and he said a very genuine thank you and the conversation moved on to other topic, my friend was now talking about something else entirely when his dad goes
“i think if i were born in your generation i might have been bisexual”
